I woke up frustrated. I had a dream that I found a puppy. It had a collar with a phone number but every time I tried to call the number something would happen to distract me or make it impossible to complete the call. I would drop the phone, my phone wasn’t working, or the puppy itself wouldn’t sit still long enough for me to get all the numbers. At one point I had all the numbers but they weren’t in order.
Although I was exasperated by the dream, I woke up laughing. Why? Because that dream was just an extension of what I’m going through in life right now. Not to worry, the trials and tribulations I’m facing are minor. Just life and all the ups and downs that go with it. You know things like work being iffy, modern technology not functioning, and people just being people.
But the aftermath of the dream made me realize one thing—that the frustrations I’ve been facing are actually beneficial.
As a freelance worker my paycheck depends on other people. Some are reliable and others are flaky. It’s the flaky ones that cause me to dream about lost dogs. But it’s these same annoyances that cause me to think outside the box, to take chances, and to do things differently.
Being an “independent contractor” means you have the freedom to do what you want, when you want and how you want. I can work on a manuscript at two in the morning. I can take an afternoon off and go to a movie. I can postpone one project without getting anyone’s approval.
It also means, though, that you have to develop your own method of motivation. In most cases, you don’t have a boss telling you what to do, or when, or how. You have to figure all those things out for yourself.
It also means you have to find a way to make things work when they aren’t.
And that’s where the frustration that I’ve been experiencing becomes helpful. It’s usually when I’m at my wit’s end that I find the adrenaline I need to move forward. It’s almost as if that anger gives me the permission to try something new. When things are going as planned we push new ideas to the back burner and we stick with that status quo. But when those annoyances pop up we want change.
That’s when I find myself energized. I want to do something and force myself to come up with a plan of attack. Sometimes the plans work, other times I need to implement a different approach. Either way at least I’m doing something.
The feeling of frustration can be exhausting but it can also be the catalyst we need to make things happen. So the next time you face frustration, take a deep breath, embrace it, and push forward.
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